A letter to my Son: I had planned for you to be my last, that was always true, but you were going to be my girl.
In my mind, there was never any doubt that I would be a mom to both a boy and a girl, the plan was actually two of each. Luckily your dad made me a stepmom to a girl and a boy, so we were halfway there. When I found out your brother was a boy, I was relieved. I cried at the news, joyful tears that my plan was falling into place. I’d have my son, my baby girl would have a big brother to grow up with, my dream was finally coming to fruition.
A few years later, I had the good fortune of another positive pregnancy test. I was elated; I had been hoping for you for a long time. You’d be a playmate for your big brother, my last baby, and my little girl.
We were so excited to confirm your gender that we bought an early test. We organized an intimate gender reveal, leaving your momma (my mom) to do all of the organizing.
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The Gender Reveal
We were all set, I opened the oversized box to discover blue balloons! Wait, what?! The baby is a boy? It can’t be right, this test was faulty, the baby is a girl… truth be told, during my pregnancy I had a sneaking suspicion you were a boy, but most of my life I knew you’d be a girl, so there was a level of shock.
When the ultrasound came, you were not shy about the proof. There was no room for doubt, you were my baby boy.
I always imagined I’d be disappointed if I only had one gender, though always hoping if it were the case, I’d have boys. The idea of raising more than one of me was not something I was interested in doing, kudos to my parents for making it through. But when I found out you were switching things up, making me a mom of boys, I felt… Fulfilled. I loved the idea of you and your brother playing together, having each other to grow up with, being friends for life.
We’ve now had eight months together and, I could not imagine you any other way. You are the light of my life. My little prince. You have completed our family in a way that I did not expect, the reality being so much bigger than the dream.
Maybe one day you will give me a daughter-in-law, or a granddaughter, or you won’t. The one thing I know for sure is you’ve given me everything I ever needed. Please see it in this letter to you, I will always love you just the way you are.
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