I often hear Stepmom’s call themselves controlling. This resonated with thinking of myself too, I hated not being able to decide what was happening in the kid’s lives. I disagreed with some of the decisions that were being made for them and the lack of power over that got so frustrating. Learning to let go of […]
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Your expectations can change everything. Expect the worst, and you will probably see the worst. In the beginning, there were a lot of emails that would go back and forth with Biomom. Usually just about arguing for time with the kids. I would get so frustrated, wondering who the hell would argue to give their
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As a stepmom, I’ve so often heard that co-parenting is best for the children. While I agree that if you can get along with the other parent(s), that will make things a whole lot easier, and minimizing conflict for the children is always best, there are boundaries that get blurry in this conversation. Forced co-parenting
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As the stepmom, I buy the kids new clothes every year so they don’t have to travel with luggage. I started doing this a few years ago after forgetting to pack some jackets to send back and feeling like a failure about it. It may seem crazy to buy a full summer wardrobe for both
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A letter to my Son: I had planned for you to be my last, that was always true, but you were going to be my girl. In my mind, there was never any doubt that I would be a mom to both a boy and a girl, the plan was actually two of each. Luckily
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I completely agree that my husband should pay child support. He is responsible for the wellbeing of his kids and there is a financial obligation, that is not a question. What I struggle with is the complete lack of control. My husband makes substantially more money than the kid’s mom, which means he is responsible
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Being a stepmom is not an easy gig. You love someone else’s children, you love them like they are yours but will never be treated like you are their mom. We live under a microscope. Pushing to be perfect so we are not criticized, while always feeling judged by someone. Whether it’s a coworker, a
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I’ve been hearing a lot about positive co-parenting relationships and how they are what’s best for our children. While I don’t entirely disagree, it can be very disheartening to hear when this is not your reality. When I entered into stepfamily life I had big dreams of the perfect co-parenting relationships and everyone getting along
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I was standing outside watching my three-year-old play with the neighbors as an older man was walking by. He stopped and chatted briefly with the kids, then looked up at me and asked “How many kids?”. It’s an innocent question, but every time I’m faced with it I tense up and stumble to answer. In
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The biggest difference I feel between my biological children and my stepchildren is the pressure of raising them. Although I worry about my stepkids and their future just as much, I do not carry the weight of it the same. Ensuring they hit each milestone on time is not my burden. I will discuss my
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