Being a stepmom is hard. There are so many things to worry about. So many things to be careful of. All the things you shouldn’t do, say, expect, think. If I let myself, I can get really overwhelmed by it. Well, I slipped. I was having a conversation with my stepdaughter and I let my […]
That Time I Said Too Much Read More »
To me, celebrating is for sharing joy. Spending time together. Focusing on a specific event, and giving it the attention it deserves. Being from a blended family, I’ve shared holidays. I’ve broken up days to ensure both parents get time on the holiday. I’ve also celebrated the same holiday on two different days. I much
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Sometimes I get caught up in the moment. In the drama. In my fear of the kids not knowing the truth. There have been conversations that have resulted in my inability to see past my rage. I lose focus on the bigger picture. It’s not something I’m proud of, but it’s the truth. This happened
All I Can Control Is My Response Read More »
“If it were up to me” is a phrase I regularly catch myself saying. I’m smart enough to know it’s not up to me. It’s not my place and that I don’t get to change the dynamic of our blended family when it comes to their mom, but I can tell you the current system
If It Were Up To Me – Notes From The Stepmom Read More »
Worrying is a huge part of parenting, and stepparenting is no exception. When it comes to my stepkids, there are so many things that I spend my energy stressing over. Are they happy? I am constantly in fear of the unknown. Are they thriving at their mom’s? Will they miss biomom when they come to us?
Fear of the Unknown – A Stepmom’s Constant Struggle Read More »
When I started dating a man with kids I never considered looking for a stepmom support system. I truly didn’t understand what getting involved with a blended family meant, although people will tell me that I knew what I was getting into. It was obvious that I would love the kids. I was confident I
Stepmom Support System – Why You Need One Read More »
Why are stepmoms always disregarded as a parent? Sure, I did not birth two of our children. I wasn’t present during the pregnancy nor did I get that first hug when they were brought into the world. This is true. However, I did make a conscious decision to become a parent to them. I did
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Mother’s Day, ugh. For a day that is meant to make moms feel special, it can sure do the opposite to a stepmom. As we approach this dreadful day, I wanted to share my tips to help stepmoms get through, and maybe, even enjoy something on it! In my situation, this has been a day that
5 Tips To Help Stepmoms Survive Mother’s Day Read More »
“Wait until you have your own” – words I constantly heard as a new stepmom. I always had an idea of what it would feel like to be a parent as if something would just click one day and you’d feel it. I remember hearing my stepdaughter, boyfriend’s daughter at the time, call us her
Wait Until You Have Your Own – Stepmom Struggles Read More »
I often hear Stepmom’s call themselves controlling. This resonated with thinking of myself too, I hated not being able to decide what was happening in the kid’s lives. I disagreed with some of the decisions that were being made for them and the lack of power over that got so frustrating. Learning to let go of
A Stepmom’s Journey Learning to Let Go of What I Can’t Control Read More »
